They may have suffered through a troubled childhood experience that has wounded them or they now have higher priorities such as their career or taking care of a sick parent.Perhaps, they are recently divorced or widowed, and legitimately not ready to get involved in an intimate relationship. Also, ask about your options for preserving fertility. Before treatment begins, talk with your health care team about how treatment could affect your fertility.I have a brother who just broke off an engagement and he is crushed.He typically has gone for women who have had issues with the men in their lives (fathers, brothers).She called him after he left, broke the engagement off, trashed their apartment and moved out, texted my mom at am to let her know how her son had wronged her, and harassed all his friends who were on the trip with him.When he got back and told her he needed time to think things over she called him crying and asking “don’t you still want to be with me? She is and has been wildly manipulative and erratic in her behavior- she brings new meaning to the “woman scorned” adage.
My brother seems to be in a pattern of “saving” emotionally damaged women.
Whether it's my own insecurities or the battles I faced in previous relationships, it's hard to drop the act you know so well. And while I truly believe that you can overcome just about any hardship in life, it's really hard to control what someone else does to you. But I'm insecure, and all I have to go on is a previous relationship where my partner's phone was their lifeline and also included several other women.. I will say more times in a day than I can count, and I will recognize that it's annoying and ridiculous, but I still can't stop myself.
But even though I'm no longer bitter or tormented by my past, I still have some behaviors that manifest themselves when I'm feeling especially low. In fact, I will talk myself out of it a million times.
But the best part about being damaged is that there's only one way to go now, and I will bust my ass every day to be a strong, independent woman with her own self-worth.
It just might take me a little longer than I'd like.