It was the day I’d long hoped for, marrying a nice Jewish girl. In fact, by the time we’d started dating, I’d given up on Jewish women, and my dream of a perfect Jewish wedding, altogether. The intense pressure I felt to date and marry within the tribe damaged my perception of Jewish women and my ability to be myself around them.This information was pounded in from all directions, from rabbis, from my parents, my grandparents, Hebrew High School, Camp Ramah.(I guess there are more non-Jews out there.) Are they wrong for treating me this way, or am I? Hillary in Atlanta Our answer begins with a question you must answer. This has nothing to do with how religiously observant you are; it has to do with how you define yourself in terms of your history, your culture, your spiritual beliefs and your relationship to God.We see that you feel a connection to Judaism from the fact that you clicked onto this website! Unlike me, she hadn’t dreamed of meeting someone Jewish and having a Jewish wedding.
Dear [email protected], For Jews, “marrying within the faith” isn’t a cultural preference or prejudice.Dear Rabbi, I’m getting married in October to a girl who is not Jewish (she is Hindu, born in India) and we’re having a difficult time finding a Rabbi who will marry us. And do you have any recommendations for Rabbis that would consider performing the ceremony.It’s important to me and my family that we are married by a Rabbi. Dear Rabbi, I will be married (very soon) to a Jewish woman.If you do, then you should date only Jews, so that you will marry a Jew.Lets face it: It’s much more common for mixed-faith families to gravitate toward the predominant culture (i.e.