They don’t know you, they haven’t met you face-to-face, and they don’t want to get stuck on a bad date.
In my research, I’ve found that a woman’s #1 fear online is that a guy will be awkward, creepy, or intense in-person.
Girls on online dating sites really can get bombarded with messages, and at that point, they’re not really likely to spend more than 15 seconds quickly scanning through a message before decided to keep reading or not, . ” Later, once you guys have gone back and forth a few times, you can feel free to write longer, more involved messages.
A message that reads: “Hello, nice to “meet” you, I’m John. You might think it’s flattering, but in general women don’t like to be approached like that.
I don't usually start off a post with the impact points right at the beginning.
But I want to lay these out first -- because they're so vital to solid message writing -- and we'll get into the "whys" and the "hows" in a moment.
But mostly it’s that I am pretty unfiltered.” She says she has an attitude so I’m challenging her on that and poking fun.
I was going to write about something else today -- I have a couple of big-concept posts I've been meaning to write up and get around to -- but, heck, the last post I put up was a big-concept post so I figured let's have a quick breather from that and get something a little lighter up first. I've been all too guilty of this myself -- sending super-long messages.
This topic came up as I got to an email from a reader. And what I found was that I was often disappointed -- I'd put all this time and effort into a monster of a message, and then... There are a bunch of lessons I eventually took away from those experiences that I'll share with you today.
Seriously, your pictures are all a girl has to go on to determine whether or not you are an axe murderer/pedophile/stalker.
Care about taking high quality shots and coming off as a put-together gentleman.