"When you heart is centered on glorifying God and being safe in Him then that's going to kind of bleed into this relationship and even how you see that other person.They're not a means to this end; they are your brother, your sister in Christ that you want to treasure and get to know more and possibly be your husband or your wife."Adjusting your focus, she said, will also help dating Christians set the right boundaries including limits on physical intimacy and the right timing to share personal information.The hope was that dating would eventually lead to a closer, loving relationship of mutual respect that would, in time, bring a couple to the point of marriage.
Think about it any longer, though, and you’ll probably dismiss their story as ancient and out-dated, as irrelevant for twenty-first-century Christians.
A guy and a girl who aren’t officially dating may send texts to each other during the wee hours of the night, “chat” extensively over Facebook, or “hang out” with each other on their i Phones or i Pads.
Maybe they’ll call each other “BFFs” and watch movies or have dinner together, but they do so in a detached way—as though their sexual identity doesn’t matter.
This article offers a number of practical suggestions to help set proper patterns for relating, building friendship, dating, and embarking on commitment that leads to marriage.
These suggestions are as follows: drop that “faux spouse” who refuses to commit to you; follow the Golden Rule of dating (treating the person you’re dating as you would want someone else to treat your future spouse); don’t date until you are at a place in life where friendship can naturally develop into a flourishing, exclusive relationship; don’t kiss until you’re engaged—or even the day of the wedding; set patterns of faithfulness and self-control that will guide you through dating and marital life; observe how the friend in whom you are interested resolves disagreements, shows forgiveness, and handles disappointments and frustrations; before engagement, address general concerns about previous sexual experience. While “enjoying” the seeming benefits of emotional attachments, unmarried couples— though friends—may be avoiding the hard work of deepened commitment, but to their own harm.