Courtship has become casual, with texts, hookups and hangouts.For Millennials in particular, who view a "date" as too much of a commitment — both in time and emotional connection — the vagaries of dating can be especially confounding.Going for dinner is likely to be a date, and all the things in between – bowling, going to see a gig, the cinema – could be interpreted as either scenario. They may want to ask you out, but just hanging out together carries less pressure – a chance to get you on your own, but without expectations.In this case, you need to look for more signs on the day. Look for tell tale signs: So all the signs are positive, but what do you do now? Reciprocate their body language and wait for them to clock your interest and make a move.It is always possible — confusing, but possible — that someone for real wants to be your friend. Here’s how you know: Hanging out: If they make plans Friday for Friday, because , you know?Dating: If they make plans Tuesday for Friday, because in their love-struck eyes, you are worth keeping a calendar for.We’ve all been there: you get asked out by that cutie you’ve been eyeing and after the initial excitement wears off the questions come flooding in. Lo Dolce tells us that “a date implies that there’s a future potential for a relationship, hanging out is merely for hooking up.” Examples of a date may be going out for drinks or coffee, being taken to dinner (regardless of who pays) or going out to see a movie, whereas a hangout is staying in to watch Netflix or hanging out late-night after a party or going to a bar.
Sara Svendsen, 25, has asked herself that question when she's been out with guys — and says she's been wrong "on both sides of that." So have her friends."A date is someone personally asking you out — that sometimes can get confused with a one-on-one hangout, depending on the way they mention it or which medium they use to ask you or if it happens to be a group hangout," she says.
It can be tough to distinguish between a date and a hang out, especially in college when most are on a tight budget and dinner and a movie can be totally out of the question.
Each scenario is totally fine, as long as it’s what you’re looking for.
Clinical psychologist Sonya Rhodes, also of New York, says a date today "transcends this sort of 'hanging out culture.' ""A date shows some special interest in a special person.
A date takes it to a new level," says Rhodes, author of The Alpha Woman Meets Her Match, to be published in April.