My opinion about sexual transparency is practically heresy in the heterosexual dating advice world, where women are routinely admonished for letting it be known that they like sex.
You're really hitting it off, but the dude is basically a ghost. No one who online dates is "off the grid." He's hiding a dark secret (or he just has a girlfriend).2. And then suddenly you don't hear from him for 12 hours. Either his mom gets sick or he gets a flat tire or his mom gets sick again. Bailing eight times means he's hoping you'll send him nude pictures without him ever having to actually meet you.9. He's always complaining about the long hours he works, but he makes really good money, so it's OK. Everyone likes to talk themselves up when you first meet them, but he really forces conversations in odd directions just to get the chance to make himself look cool. Unless you are actually a giant baby, Benjamin Button-style, there's no reason for some guy you don't know to call you that.You have one shot -- a fleeting shot, given the cyber candy store otherwise known as online dating -- to make yourself stand out.But you don't want to stand out to everyone; you just want to stand out to the type of person who shares your values -- sexual and otherwise.While I agreed with most of her advice, I bristled as she urged women to "leave sex out of your profile" because "it gives men the wrong impression and encourages those you aren't interested in." My guess is that 99.9% of dating coaches would preach the same thing: AND you will attract men who are incapable of seeing women as anything more than penis receptacles.This kind of reductionist thinking is horribly unfair to both sexes and, IMHO, is one reason men and women don't trust each other.