People always ask me why I am still single, I get all the popular comments, like “Oh, that’s a shame, still single at your age”. There is nothing wrong with me, I’m athletic, been told I am attractive, outgoing, and I enjoy sports, and all sorts of out door activities, and have a great circle of friends, so why after all this time have I not met anyone? I’ve dated on and off for a few months to a year, only to have things crash and burn for one reason or another. I’ve tried the online dating, only to become seriously jaded by it all. I’m tired of friends telling me that when I least expect it, I will meet someone great, well, I have not been expecting it, and it never came. 🙁 Dear Lauren, I’m reminded of a story that Rich Gosse, the founder of American Singles, once shared with me. I’m 42, and have never been married, and I guess that I have been dating idiots, or men who are not even dating material for the last 10 years.I don’t suddenly get smarter if I propose to my girlfriend.And if she dumped me, I wouldn’t suddenly get dumber.Yeah, yeah, you only want to go out with intelligent, attractive women with big tits who'll laugh at your shit jokes and like to eat brunch or read the (broadsheet) paper before seeing an independent film or exhibition.
And I really have no time for mindless small talk and flaky people.After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads. I am 27 years old and have been resorting to online dating for the last 10 years.I was shy when I was younger and used it as a means to meet people.But “it really is sifting through a lot of crap to be able to find somebody.”Sales’s article focused heavily on the negative effects of easy, on-demand sex that hookup culture prizes and dating apps readily provide.And while no one is denying the existence of fuckboys, I hear far more complaints from people who are trying to find relationships, or looking to casually date, who just find that it’s not working, or that it’s much harder than they expected.“I think the whole selling point with dating apps is ‘Oh, it’s so easy to find someone,’ and now that I’ve tried it, I’ve realized that’s actually not the case at all,” says my friend Ashley Fetters, a 26-year-old straight woman who is an editor at The easiest way to meet people turns out to be a really labor-intensive and uncertain way of getting relationships.